Dan Savage: The NIGHTLINE Interview!

Was Thrilled to see Dan Savage on Nightline the other night. We got see his office (in The Stranger's Offices in Capitol Hill with Bobby Morris Field in the Background) and his House as they went back and forth, We even got to meet Terry, who has gotten Better Looking!

UNJI DE NIES: What's the hardest question that you get?


SAVAGE: You get letters from people who have been unlucky in love all their lives and they want to be told that, or they have been told over and over again, there's someone out there for everyone. And I will say to them, that is a lie. There's not.


DE NIES: There has to be, though. Otherwise-


SAVAGE: There's somebody out there for rent for everybody.

DE NIES: But there's not - you don't believe in soul mates or someone out there who is your ideal match?


SAVAGE: The one? Oh, my God. That's something that has to be combated - the one. Yeah, I get letters every day from people who haven't found the one yet or are with somebody who is totally terrific but they're not sure that she's the one that they've heard about because there's these - there is no one. There's a .64 and maybe if you're lucky, a .67 that you round up to one.

DE NIES: But you've been married for so long. Isn't Terry the one?


SAVAGE: He's the one I settled on. He's the one I picked. He's the one who picked me. He's the one who makes me happier than not. I pay him the compliment of pretending he's the one. And he pays me the compliment of pretending I'm the one even though we both know that there is no one.

TERRY MILLER (PARTNER): It's just all the pictures they could get, you know.

DE NIES: Terry Miller is Savage's partner of 16 years, co-parent of their teenage son, whom they adopted at birth. And co-creator of the It Gets Better project. A YouTube channel with messages of hope-

MILLER: I was bullied a lot, beat up, thrown against walls and lockers and windows.

SAVAGE: I called Terry from JFK, said, I want to make a video. I want to say, it gets better. I want to talk about not just that we were both bullied and we got through it but talk about our joy and encourage other gay and lesbian and bi and trans adults to do the same and give these kids hope for their futures.

MILLER: We thought we'd maybe get a few, like maybe a couple hundred videos at the most.

DE NIES: They got 10,000 from celebrities-

DE NIES: So, is there anyone that you haven't seen a video from that you'd like to?


SAVAGE: The Pope.

MILLER: We have zero videos from any Republican politicians.

DE NIES: Savage doesn't hide his politics. He famously went after Republican Rick Santorum after the former senator compared homosexuality to bestiality. Savage responded by calling on his fan base to redefine the word Santorum online.

SAVAGE: It's disgusting. You Google his name, you're in for a shock.

DE NIES: Have you had a chance to talk to him personally?


SAVAGE: No.

DE NIES: Do you have any interest in engaging with him on this?


SAVAGE: I'd love for Rick Santorum him to come to dinner and meet my family.

Dan Savage's new book "It Gets Better, Coming Out, Overcoming Bullying and Creating a Life Worth Living" is on sale now.


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