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Saturday, July 12, 2014

(OGL) Reality Check: You May Never Find Someone!

by Nicholas Marlin

It's a picturesque Saturday morning in Palm Springs. I am gently swaying on a cozy swinging bench, watching birds in the orange trees in the reflection of the placid pool water in front of me. The aroma of ripe oranges and sounds of nearby water fountains mixed with chirping birds perfects the scene. In this setting I cannot help but think about how inspiring and amazing my friend Bruce is who owns this exquisite little home that he calls his, "little desert retreat." Bruce is an amazing man, but what inspires me most about him is that it's abundantly clear that he's happy, in love with his life, and unlike so many others, perfectly content being single.

As the co-founder of a leading relationship-focused gay and lesbian dating site, OneGoodLove.com, what I am about to say may come as a shock to you: You may never find someone. No matter how hard you try, how many dating sites you subscribe to, how many dates you go on, how many frogs you kiss, the unfortunate statistical truth is that not everyone finds the man or woman of his or her dreams. You may wonder why I would say that. My only intention in divulging that harsh reality is to have it serve as the catalyst for you yourself coming to the realization that regardless of your relationship status, you can be happy, whole, and in love with your life.

Too many of my friends, people I talk to, and profiles I read of members on my dating site believe that in order to be happy they need to find a partner or meet someone. Some people go as far as acting desperate, miserable, and unhappy admittedly as a result (in their own minds) of being single. These unfortunate people would argue that it's a "chicken before the egg" dilemma, where they could only possibly be happy after they were to find someone. For you singles out there dredging through a meager existence due to your relationship status, I have another reality check: You aren't going to attract anything but other dredgers to console you in your solitude.

Saturday, April 13, 2013

(OGL) Being Open to Love!

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Love is such a powerful thing. Even the word itself can evoke strong emotion -- unless, of course, you've shut yourself off to it. And unfortunately too many people in this world have. I consider myself an expert in this area, not only because I'm the cofounder of OneGoodLove.com, a long-term dating site committed to helping gay and lesbian singles find love, but because I am such a loving person myself. I'm flooded with feeling when I think about love, especially how much in love with my partner I am.

But it's not just my partner. I love my friends, my family, my career, my life, my wonderful neighbors and their cute little dog! Nauseating? Perhaps, but it's how I live my life and I love it. There is a tremendous amount of joy and happiness in my life, which is directly related to being open to both receiving and giving love.

Saturday, February 23, 2013

(OGL): 10 Ways To Get Your Profile Noticed!

By Mark Strong
Certified Professional Life Coach

After writing and reading thousands of profiles over the years, I have gathered plenty of best practices that can help anyone catapult themselves to the front of the line.

Not every tip will be relevant to you, but many of them will likely be. Engage them as appropriate and watch as your connections dramatically increase.
 
Check OUT More from One Good Love!

Saturday, February 16, 2013

(OGL) 5 Important Steps In Finding One Good Love!

By Mark Strong,
Certified Professional Life Coach


Congratulations on making the next perfect step toward finding the relationship you want. To get you moving in the right direction, here are 5 “must remember” steps that are true for every relationship-minded man or woman who searches for love online.

Find OUT what they are at One Good LOVE!

Saturday, February 9, 2013

(OGL) Eight Things to Do Before Going Back on the Dating Scene!

By Gena Hymowech

So you’ve been out of the dating scene for a while, and you’re anxious to get back in. But wait! There are a few things you may need to do first, to improve your chances of success.

Click Here to Find Out!

Saturday, February 2, 2013

(OGL) Five Online Dating Communication Turn-Offs!

By Gena Hymowech
OneGoodLove

One might think finding and communicating with potential love matches online would be easier than doing so in person. Online, we don’t have to worry about our messy hair, worn-out clothes or bad table manners, for example. In fact, establishing a relationship online can sometimes be even more difficult for those not used to the experience. Online dating has its own set of quick turn-offs for potential mates important to avoid.

Find Out at OneGoodLove!

Saturday, January 26, 2013

(OGL) Is He Right for Me?

By Brian Rzepczynski,
Certified Personal Life Coach

When you’re dating someone, it’s very important to always be on alert to determine if you and he are compatible for the potential for a long-term relationship. This screening process should be done before and throughout the pre-commitment phase of the relationship. By gauging your goodness-of-fit early on in your dating relationship, you’ll either be laying the foundation for a bond of trust and intimacy or you’ll be disengaging from further connection before becoming too emotionally invested. It’s critical to discover this information as early on in your dating as possible to avoid becoming overly-attached and developing expectations that would likely lead to disappointment and grief.

In determining your compatibility with a new guy you’re seeing, here are three categories of questions you might consider asking yourself to help along with your decision-making process.

Check OUT One Good Love for the Full article!

Saturday, January 12, 2013

(OGL) No One Likes A Houdini!

By Mark Strong (aka The Gay Life Coach),
Certified Professional Life Coach
For One Good Love

When it comes to breaking it off with someone, we tend to let fear get the best of us. Some of us choose to fly the scene and let our silence do the work. This is a readily available crutch, especially in the world of online dating. I am sure you have been at the receiving end of this at some point so you know how it feels when someone disappears. It sucks.

Don’t pull a Houdini. Man/woman up and be honest about your feelings and your desire to end the relationship.

Read More at One Good Love!

Saturday, January 5, 2013

(OGL) Gaysians are Beautiful: Racial Lookism and Why the Gay Rainbow Needs to Embrace More Colors of Beauty!

by Jimmy Nguyen

“No Fats, Femmes or Asians.”  All too often, that ominous alert appears in profiles on gay dating and matching web sites.  It screams that the ideal of gay male attractiveness in America is not Asian, nor “Fat” nor “Femme.”  This warning is also the provocative title of a comedy show from Alec Mapa, the self-proclaimed “America’s Gaysian Sweetheart.”  Like Alec, I am also a gay/Asian double-minority.  With the title “No Fats, Femmes or Asians,” Alec succinctly raises questions I faced my entire adult life:  are Asian men unattractive to much of America’s gay community?  Are we ostracized like others with “undesirable” traits?  The truth is neither black nor white, but some shade of grey.   Yet this much is clear:  it’s time for gay men to embrace a more universal vision of beauty, one that appreciates every color of our rainbow.

Find Out MORE at OGL! 

Saturday, December 22, 2012

(OGL) Ingredients for a Successful Gay Relationship!

When you’re on the dating scene, it can seem overwhelming trying to remain centered on staying true to your personal requirements for a compatible partner and potential relationship when you have so many competing forces vying for your attention. Not only do you have to keep the other parts of your life (work, family, friends, recreation, etc.) in balance and attended to, but you also can become easily distracted and confused when you meet a variety of men as potential dating prospects who trigger various forms of chemistry and attraction within you that may or may not necessarily align with your vision for an ideal partner. For example, have you ever been in a situation where you met a totally hot guy who filled you with feelings of lust and were tempted to continue seeing him despite the fact you saw “red flags” of his incompatibility with your values? Yep, we’ve all been there and it can create all sorts of inner turmoil and indecision if you let it.

Not only is it important to know who you are and what you’re looking for, but there are also some essential ingredients that are common to all intimate relationships that will be important to be present in a dating situation with men you become involved with. What follows is a list of those critical relational elements that you’ll want to be attuned to as you’re dating to help you with your decision-making about whether you and a certain guy are truly a goodness-of-fit before actually committing to each other. These aren’t hard-fast rules, but the more of these characteristics that are present in your relationship with your dating partner, the greater the chances are of your becoming a successful couple. So be observant of the presence, or lack thereof, of these qualities as you’re getting to know each new guy until you land a winner!

Find Out at One Good Love!

Saturday, November 24, 2012

(OGL) Top 10 Secrets of Successful Gay Daters!

Dating can be like a roller coaster ride sometimes with its fun highs and frustrating lows. Ever wonder why some guys have more luck with the dating game than others? Ever contemplate what it takes to become more successful with men? Well, that’s a tricky business and there’s no scientific formula that will yield those positive results. I believe dating is partly luck and LOTS of preparation.

This article will list ten characteristics common to the profile of a successful gay dater. The list goes on beyond this as well, but these qualities can provide a starting point for you to assess your possible strengths and weaknesses as a single gay man on the prowl for your Mr. Right and to develop goals for self-improvement that will maximize your efforts out on the dating scene.

Find Out More at OGL!

Thursday, October 25, 2012

(MY VIEW) The LGBT Community's Answer to Finding Real Love Online!

by Frank Mastronuzzi

In 2001 I had just finished my M.B.A. at the University of Texas at Austin and had landed a great job with a fast-growing website called Match.com, so I eagerly packed up my bags and moved to Beverly-- er, Dallas. After a few years of working at Match.com, I decided it was time to finally give the site a test drive and try to find the love of my life, but when I actually started to use our own service, I realized that I felt like a salmon swimming upstream. After I completed my profile and uploaded my 15 glamor shots, nothing on the site changed for me at all. The site was treating me just like a heterosexual man: All the images being shown to me were of women, the content was focused on straight dating, and there was absolutely no acknowledgment from the site that I had just told them I was a gay man.

Saturday, February 18, 2012

(OGL) “If I’m So Darned Cute, Why Won’t Anyone Go Out With Me?!”

by Brian Rzepczynski, The Gay Love Coach

Introduction
One of the most common concerns that come through my service from gay singles is the difficulty they speak of securing dates with quality and compatible men; and sometimes it’s even just landing a date of any kind! Invitations for sex seem more readily accessible and the frustration and disappointment is the predominant emotion experienced by these relationship-minded singles who have good heads on their shoulders and are ready and available for love, but just can’t seem to find others who mirror their desire for substance and depth in their involvements.

After a series of let-downs, it can really start messing with your sense of optimism and positive outlook. You might begin to feel jaded and develop resentments toward the whole institution of dating and the gay community, questioning whether gay relationships really can work. Worse yet, you might begin turning these attacking feelings against yourself in the form of developing beliefs that there’s something wrong or defective with you in the face of so much perceived rejection. Ouch! Stop the madness! You cannot allow all the hard work it took for you to develop and grow yourself into the solid man that you’ve become to be tampered with by the inherent challenges of dating.

Click HERE to Find Out how! 

Saturday, September 3, 2011

(OGL) Can we talk?: What your conversation style says about your relationship!

By Gena Hymowech

We talk to each other for many reasons: to get information, to give compliments, to feel reassured, to share a little bit of ourselves with the other person. Most people don’t look too closely at the types of conversations they have with their lovers, but conversations are often the best barometers to tell you how your relationship is going. If your conversations aren’t going well, then there may be a deeper problem.

Find OUT at One Good Love!

Saturday, August 13, 2011

(OGL) When Your Dating Routine Needs Tweaking!

By Gena Hymowech

You say you’re not meeting anyone. And you don’t think there’s anything you can do
about it. You’re just going through a bout of bad dating luck, right?

Actually, you’re wrong. Maybe I’m a bit of an optimist but I really don’t believe there
is such a thing as bad dating luck. I think that when you have “bad dating luck,” it just
means that what you are doing is not working and you need to tweak your dating routine
a little.

Find Out at One Good Love!

Saturday, August 6, 2011

(OGL) The Who’s, What’s, Where’s, Why’s & When’s Of A First Date!

By Mark Strong, Certified Professional Life Coach

The Who:
When choosing with whom to go on a first date, use onegoodlove.com to its fullest advantage and then switch to your intuition. Women are often better than men at listening at a deeper level. But ask yourself if you felt comfortable on the first phone call. Did they seem honest? Were they inquisitive? Did they make you laugh? Decide what’s critical to you and then go with your gut. If it doesn’t feel right, politely pass and move on.

For the What, Where, Why and When go to One Good Love!

Saturday, July 30, 2011

(OGL) It’s Our First Face-to Face Meeting, What the Heck Do We Talk About?!

By Brian Rzepczynski, Certified Personal Life Coach
OneGoodLove.com 

So you’ve more than likely been chatting it up online with a potential dating prospect that you’ve met through your personals ad and perhaps even progressed to talking a bit on the telephone. It is generally best practice to gradually move from email correspondence or online chatting to actually speaking “live” on the telephone before meeting in-person for the first time. This gets the acquaintanceship started at a reasonably good pace and allows you to learn more about each other through written and verbal words before taking the plunge to meet face-to-face, which for most people is the more vulnerable and nerve-wracking scenario. Take time to glean the information you receive about this new man through all your modes of communication you’ve had with each other before deciding whether he meets your compatibility criteria to even proceed with a physical meeting. This will help to save much time and energy in your quest for a good first date material.

Saturday, April 2, 2011

(OGL) Confidence is Like a College Course!

By Greg Halpen
TheGayGuysLoveCoach.com

As my first class of the new semester ended yesterday, I was reminded of something really profound, and don’t mind if I get a little Woo Woo here, because that’s what I do best. And you are probably wondering what this has to do with helping you build unstoppable confidence, but if you’ll open your mind for a few moments, I promise you it has everything to do with it AND more.

Saturday, March 26, 2011

(OGL): Digital To Analog: How To Get From Website To First Date!

By Mark Strong, Certified Professional Life Coach

There is a dance to digital dating. It takes some time to figure out how it all works and the tempo required to move from emailing a profile match to walking into a first date.
 
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