My most courageous self, the best man that I'll ever be, lived more than two decades ago during the first years of a horrific plague. ... I miss the man I was forced to become" (Me, in "Once, When We Were Heroes," 2007).
AIDS did not kill Spencer Cox in the first, bloodiest battles of the 1980s. It spared him that.
The reprieve allowed Spencer's brilliance as co-founder of the Treatment Action Group (TAG) to forge new FDA guidelines for drug approval and help make effective HIV medications a reality, saving an untold number of lives.
Such triumph by a man still in his 20s might have signaled even greater achievements ahead. Instead, Spencer found himself adrift in the same personal crisis as many of his contemporaries, who struggled for a meaningful existence after years of combating the most frightening public health crisis of modern times.
Gay activists like Spencer were consumed by AIDS for so many gruesome years that many of them were shocked, once the war abated, to see how little around them had changed. Climbing from the trenches, they saw a gay culture that must have seemed ludicrous, packed with the same drug addictions, sexual compulsions and soulless shenanigans that AIDS, in its singular act of good will, had arrested for a decade or so.
They found themselves in a world in which no one wants to see battle scars, where intimacy is manufactured on keyboards and websites, where any sense of community has long since faded from the AIDS organizations and now only makes brief appearances in 12-step meetings or, just as likely, in the fraternity of active crystal meth addicts chasing deliverance in a dangerous shell game of bliss and desolation.
That dark allure of meth, a drug so devoured and fetished by gay men today that it is now a leading indicator of new HIV infections, seduced Spencer at some point along the way. The drug is known to whisper empty promises about limitless power and sexual escape while calming the addict's ghosts and sorrows for miserably brief periods of time.
When Spencer Cox died on Dec. 18, 2012, in New York City, the official cause of death was AIDS-related complications, which is understandable if post-traumatic stress, despair and drug addiction are complications related to AIDS.
Spencer believed that this connection exists. His own writings for the Medius Institute for Gay Men's Health (an organization he co-founded after his work with TAG) focus on exactly the issues that were distressing him personally: crystal meth abuse, loneliness, risk taking, feelings of confusion after years of accomplishment and purpose.
In retrospect you can read his work and break the private code written between the lines. It spells out "HELP ME."
Spencer's life during this period and beyond was difficult, by many accounts. The Medius Institute failed due to a lack of funding, defeating Spencer's effort to address mental health issues among gay men. His drug addiction spiraled and ebbed and raged again, until he finally retreated to Georgia to live with family for a few years.
When Spencer returned to New York City last September, many of his closest friends had lost track of him. There is uncertainty about his last months, and no evidence that his addiction was active, but what little medication compliance he managed had been abandoned completely, setting the stage for his final hospitalization. MORE!
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