by Mike Alvear
My friend C. thinks so. He's half-white, half-black, and all gay.
"I've had people come up to me in predominantly white gay bars and say,
'Shouldn't you be at the black bars?' he recalls. "I constantly overhear
gay men say, 'Eww, I'd never date a black guy.'
C. is upset, and rightfully so. Nobody wants their individuality not
to count. He's convinced that gays are more prejudiced than straights,
but I'm not so sure. While nobody would deny C.'s experiences, he
doesn't have anything to compare it to. He didn't really know how to
react when I asked him, "Do you have black straight friends who hang out
at predominantly white bars? I bet they hear as much or more racially
tinged remarks."
I seriously doubt gay people are any more racist than straight
people. I just think witnessing or experiencing racism is more profound
when it comes from us. After all, we're a group that is systematically
discriminated against at all levels of society. When we see or
experience members of our tribe doing what's done to us, it has a
powerful impact.
There's a double whammy when the discriminated-against discriminate
-- and it's therefore more memorable. And if it's more memorable, then
you project out and think there's a lot more of it than there really is.
It's quite a sight to see the discriminated-against discriminate. You
don't soon forget it. I have a good friend who is gay and Latino and
has an Arab-sounding name. He's like a triple-threat to bigots. He's
heard it all ("You're nothing but a dirty Mexican," "Your people flew
jets into our buildings") and experienced it all (constantly stopped at
airports and pulled over by police drug dragnets). And yet he
constantly uses the n-word and spouts off some of the most hideously
stereotyped, racist garbage you've ever heard. How is this possible?
It's the equivalent of watching an innocent man get beaten by a bat turn
around and smack the innocent man next to him with it. You'd think my
friend would stop as he raised the bat to strike and think, "Wait, isn't
this the same bat those haters use on me for no good reason? Why am I
doing the same thing?" But he doesn't. And neither do other prejudiced
gay men. The different are not so different with the different than we
think.
But are we any worse than our straight counterparts? I don't think
so. It's just more repugnant when we do it, because we should know
better.
Mike Alvear is the author of the gay sex classic How to Bottom Without Pain or Stains, and the gay dating bestseller Meet Hotter Guys.
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